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Want better health? You must make peace with NOW

August 16th, 2018 | no comments

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What you think about, you bring about. Really?

If someone told me this five years ago, I would’ve listened politely, laughed quietly to myself, and then dismissed the idea as nothing more than new age baloney. I live in the real world of things, and if I can’t see it, I don’t believe it, I would’ve thought. I mean, if I can’t physically see a thought, how is it possible that it can manifest into something physical? It doesn’t make logical sense.

In his 2005 Stanford University commencement address, Steve Jobs said:

You can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something—your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

From June of 1997 to August of 2000, I fought a daily battle with binge eating disorder. After I healed, I did some serious soul-searching and began to realize that the painful experience I went through was not only brought about by my thoughts; it was a dot that had to happen in order for me to move forward and live the life of my dreams. Yes, I believe beyond a shadow of a doubt that I attracted binge eating disorder into my life.

What you focus on, expands

Another way to speak of this phenomenon called the law of attraction is, what you focus on, expands. Focusing on undesirable states that offer a great deal of inner contrast, such as lack, poverty, obesity, and disease, will draw more of these things into your life.

Since thoughts are energy and, literally, things, you want to be extra careful not to feed anything to your mind that you don’t want to come to life. I suggest very strongly that you clean up the thoughts you think about yourself and the contrasting experiences in your life. Pretend that every thought you have will come to life.

At first glance, the word contrast might conjure up negative feelings, but it’s not necessarily a negative thing. In fact, it can be quite helpful as a tool. I define contrast as an experience or situation that helps clarify what you really want. It can occur in any of these areas of your life: health, body shape, fitness level, food, relationships, finances, career, and spirituality.

Embrace your shadows…they are here to teach you something

Jalaluddin Rumi, a thirteenth-century Sufi mystic and poet, offers a unique way of appreciating all the thoughts and emotions we experience as human beings. Rather than deny them, he asks you to invite them in, with gratitude in your heart.

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out

for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.


For example, let’s say you are out of shape and therefore experiencing contrast in your level of physical fitness. This contrast helps you identify what you do want: a fit and healthy body. So if you don’t wish to occupy an out-of-shape body, stop talking about your unfit body and calling attention to it. Instead, acknowledge and welcome the contrast, and then focus on what you desire instead.

During my journey with binge eating disorder, all I thought about was how unhappy I was with my current body. This unhappiness multiplied, giving me more and more unhappiness. I got to the point where I was drowning in a tangled web of food and emotions. I couldn’t take it anymore. I had enough of the binging and overexercising, feeling guilty about food, inability to sense fullness, and total detachment from the true essence of me. This was the most contrast I ever experienced in my life, and it helped me to identify what I did want: a life free of food addiction and obsession. I wanted to be able to sit down to a delicious dinner at a nice restaurant with Wayne and not focus so much on the food. I wanted to enjoy the company and environment, and then walk away from the table without thinking about my next meal. I felt this deep within my soul. I felt, even if just for a few moments, what it would feel like to be free.

Here’s what the entire process looks like:

Make peace with, embrace, and appreciate what is (your body as it now is). Decide what you want (a fit and healthy body), and put that desire in your mind without calling repeated attention to what is (your body as it now is). Imagine what it will feel like to occupy this fit and healthy body. How will it feel in your clothes? See yourself in the mirror staring back. See it as already done. Believe that you occupy a fit and healthy body, and release resistance to any thought or feeling to the contrary, such as Yeah, but I’ve tried to improve my body in the past by dieting and spending countless hours in the gym, with no results.

Now it’s time to take action. This piece must not be forgotten. A fit and healthy body isn’t magically created by thought alone—you must take action. Eat more Earthfoods, move your body more, and offer it gratitude for keeping you alive all these years. Do this all while releasing attachment to the outcome. Let go, and watch your body as it changes.

You will get exactly what you place your attention upon, whether you want it or not. So if you aren’t satisfied with your body as it is today, for Pete’s sake, stop focusing on it, get to thinking about the healthy body of your dreams, and take action; it will become a reality.


Mel’s weekly food pick:
Thunderbird Real Food Bars





There aren’t many bars that I like because most are loaded with added sugar. One of my rules for choosing a nutrition bar is that it should have no more than 8-9 grams of sugar per bar and it must not contain any added sugar. Thunderbird Real Food Bars (specifically the Hemp + Sunflower + Pumpkin Seed bar and the Hazelnut + Coffee + Maca bar ) pass this first test. Check out these identifiable-by-your-grandmother ingredients:

  • Hemp + Sunflower + Pumpkin Seed bar: Dates, Macadamia Nuts, Almonds, Pumpkin Seeds, Sunflower Seeds, Hemp Seeds, Macadamia Nut Butter, Coconut Shreds, Extra Virgin Coconut Oil, Cinnamon, Himalayan Sea Salt
  • Hazelnut + Coffee + Maca bar: Dates, Almonds, Hazelnuts, Hazelnut Butter, Cacao Butter, Cacao Powder, Fair Trade Coffee Beans, Chia Seeds, Maca Root Powder, Vanilla Extract, Himalayan Salt Salt.

Because they have a low sugar content, these two bars are not super sweet. If you prefer less sweet, you’ll love them. If you want your nutrition bar to taste like a candy bar…go buy a candy bar. 🙂 xo

Mel’s weekly recipe pick:
Strawberry Banana “Surprise Shake”

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