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The hard truth about weight loss

November 15th, 2018 | no comments

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I laid it on pretty thick in last week’s post, didn’t I? I told you that in order for your body to return to the weight that it’s most comfortable, the last thing you need is another diet. What you need to do is listen to and trust in your brilliant body like your life depends on it.

Then I just left you hanging, didn’t I?

That was on purpose. 

I wanted you to spend a little time letting that message marinade in your subconscious.

Breaking free from the magnetizing force that triggers you to sabotage your efforts (i.e. grab the bag of chips and go to town until you’re covered in crumbs, licking your fingers, and wondering what just happened) really does begin with relearning the lessons that came so naturally to us as children:

  1. Lesson one: Stop dieting and trying to lose weight! We didn’t do this as kids.
  2. Lesson two: Stop labeling food as good versus bad. We didn’t do this as children, unless we learned it from our parents.
  3. Lesson three: Stop forbidding yourself from eating certain foods. We didn’t do this either…but our parents were masters at it, weren’t they?

As I tell my audiences time and again: I can’t even begin to talk to you about food until I’m sure you understand the basics of what it really takes to help your body settle into the weight it is most comfortable.


And it has nothing to do with food per se, but rather your relationship with food and your level of trust in your body. 


This is something that took me years to learn, which is why I wrote a book about how to restore this inner harmony.

If you are ready to begin “the work” at this fundamental level, you will be successful at releasing the weight that isn’t serving you. I promise. 

If, on the other hand, you want to skip over all of this and jump right into a weight loss meal plan…I’m not your girl and you should probably stop reading any further.

You know, it took me years to understand my place in this world as it relates to weight loss:

I don’t help people lose weight.

I help them prepare their mind and heal their relationship with food and the deeper part of themselves so that their body can release the weight, if necessary.

The truth is, focusing on food won’t get you very far. More often than not, it is the very substance that well-meaning dieters end up manipulating and abusing because they failed to do the real “work”. For example, eating artificially sweetened foods to “save” calories; starving yourself all day in an effort to “save” calories so you can go out with your friends and drink the night away, etc. Sound familiar?


The hard truth: your body will not release weight while it’s tangled in a dysfunctional relationship with food. 


Quite the contrary.

It will hold on to that weight for dear life…sort of like a protective shield.

If you are doing the real work (which really isn’t work at all) and are getting better each day at listening to and trusting your body while practicing what I call “permission-based” eating (i.e. no food is forbidden), well then by golly…you are ready to hear about food. 

Next week, I will share the eating style that works extremely well for me. You may find it works for you…or not. That’s the beauty of being an individual armed with the freedom of choice; you get to fashion an eating style that works best for you, then test it, tweak it, and hit repeat! 

Before I let you go, let’s say you are plugging along, eating well, not dieting, not labeling foods as good/bad, and you’ve lifted the red X off of all foods. How do you really know if you are on the right path and have broken free from that self-sabotaging force? 

  1. You are willingly making healthier choices and do not secretly feel like a caged animal who really wants the cheeseburger and fries. Your cage door is open and you feel free as a bird around food…ALL food.
  2. You eat something that you previously labeled as “bad” and you feel at ease, unrestricted, and absent of guilt. 
  3. Food only occupies a small space in your brain. You aren’t obsessing over it or thinking about it night and day. 

There is no better feeling in the world than to be free from the bonds of food.

You CAN do this.

Just trust a little more than you did yesterday.


Mel’s weekly food pick:
Maca Root Powder

Maca, also known as Peruvian ginseng, is the root of a vegetable native to Peru. It falls under the category of “adaptogens”, which means it has the power to fight daily stress, thereby helping your body achieve a state of balance and harmony. If coffee tends to give you the jitters, you’ll probably respond favorably to maca. Unlike stimulants, it supports a natural level of energy and vitality. 

With it’s sweet, nutty flavor, maca root powder can be easily mixed in yogurt, nut butters, and shakes and added to baked goods, pancake mix, and energy bites.

Check out this week’s recipe for No-Bake Cranberry Coconut Mood-Boosting Bites or check out these other previously featured recipes using maca powder:


Mel’s weekly recipe pick:
No-Bake Cranberry Coconut Mood-Boosting Bites











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