One Day, It’ll All Be Over
- Mel’s weekly food pick: Lemons
- Mel’s weekly recipe pick: Strawberry Lemon Chia Pudding (blended)
My husband Wayne has a way of putting things into simplistic perspective. Not long ago he said something that really struck me.
As a bystander of an uncomfortable political conversation-turned-heated-debate with a group of male acquaintances, he stood up, put his hand on the shoulder of one of the gentlemen and proclaimed with an air of absolute certainty: And one day guys…it’ll all be over.
One guy laughed in agreement, and the others just sat there befuddled, as if Wayne just revealed the Easter Bunny’s true identity.
And one day, it’ll all be over
Who could argue with that? Why is it that we avoid the reality of our own mortality, as if by paying it no mind, we will somehow escape its inevitability? Besides, it’s the only thing that’s guaranteed and that we all have in common.
Yes, one day it’ll all be over. So what are you spending your precious time doing these days?
- Complaining about things you have no control over (i.e. weather; the behavior of others)?
- Stressing over what to eat…or not to eat?
- Working, working, working… leaving no time for you? (I’m like no-shower-for-a-week-smelly guilty of this)
- Taking care of everyone else, but leaving no time to care for YOU?
- Hanging out with energy-vampires who make you want to jump off the nearest bridge?
- Bathing in guilt for: Eating that cookie? Not being Superwoman for your family? Not making more money? Sitting on the couch instead of treading on the treadmill?
- Perpetually rehashing the list of everything you wish were different about your body?
- Caring too much about what other people think of you? As American dancer and choreographer Martha Graham once said: What people in the world think of you is really none of your business. Pure genius!
- Walking around in a trance-like state, while going through the motions with abandoned emotion?
- Getting caught up in juicy office gossip?
My goodness how bad each of these are for our health… and spirit. Moreover, we are NOT here to live out our days waking up full of recycled worry and resting on a pillow of not-enoughness. Just imagine if you knew with absolute certainty that today was your last day on this magnificent earth plane. Would you spend it doing any of the above?
Let’s stop this pompous sense of entitlement! After all, one day, it’ll all be over
We are guaranteed nothing; not even ten minutes from now. So let’s get out of lalaland and face the facts–none of us are getting out alive, so why don’t we get busy living this spectacular life we are blessed with?
Though it may appear as if I’m directing this message at you, while true in part, it’s also a personal diary entry. Forgive me for being so blunt, but I SUCK at taking time for myself. Even though I partake in daily exercise, meditation, and simple healthy meal prep, I consider these analogous to daily flossing– things I do to express gratitude to my body for carrying me around. But when it comes time to stop and enjoy the simple things, I’m
a rookie at best like the kid who warms the bench all season in little league.
Don’t worry, I’m not asking you to take hours out of your day quite yet (if I’m being honest, the mere thought of that sends me into a slight panic). Because the truth is, it’s the little things that bring us a sense of joy and meaning in life. Would you agree?
Stop being so damn hard on yourself!
Today, I pour my heart out and give you permission (and also plead with myself) to stop being so damn hard on yourself! Instead, cut yourself some much-needed slack and make it a point every single day to do something that fills your heart with joy.
Here are some ideas. Some require just a moment of your time, and others a bit longer.
- Look in the mirror and fall in love with the sparkling, extraordinary creation that is YOU.
- Enjoy a flippin’ ice cream cone once in a while without wondering how many miles you’ll have to log to burn it off. Who the hell cares!
- Listen to the angelic vocals of Judy Collins in Amazing Grace– and allow yourself to weep in quiet knowingness.
- Watch the sun set and see how many colors you can pick out from the landscape.
- Catch raindrops on your tongue.
- Read a non-self-help book!
- Bask in the wonder of a tree.
- Wake up obscenely early and wait for the first bird to peep (FYI, it’s usually the cardinal around here).
- Tell a corny joke, or laugh at one! Why was the cook arrested? He was caught beating an egg.? ; What’s the difference between the bird flu and swine flu? One requires tweetment and the other an oinkment. ?Anything??
- Watch a hilarious animal video like THIS ONE or THIS ONE. (BEWARE: you may pee your pants!)
- Strike up a conversation with a lonely senior citizen. I make it a point to do this and I have to tell you, it fills my heart with such love. Most are widowed and just looking for someone to talk to. Not only are they full of so many rich stories, you’ll never have to worry about them pulling out their phone to check text messages in the middle of your conversation. HINT: they can usually be found in the morning hours at your local Panera.
- Sit by a pond and toss in a handful of stones, one at a time. Watch the water ripple and become still before tossing in the next one.
- Notice a flower.
Food is only one piece of well-being
So often we see health as influenced only by what’s at the end of our fork, however that’s only one slice of the well-being pie! We forget that laughter, fun, wonder, and allowing yourself to just BE are also huge chunks of the equation. The way I see it: not taking time for these– usually thought of as ancillary or “someday when my kids are grown”– activities is akin to skipping out on exercise.
They are enormously important for your health.
‘30 Days of Little Things’ Challenge!
Let’s enter into a challenge together, shall we? I don’t know about you, but I need this so badly in my life and could really use some accountability. Let’s make a promise to our sweet selves that, for thirty days, we will engage in one daily activity to honor and rejoice in the little things.
I’m posting my daily activity on Facebook, so if you’d like to follow along, feel free to send me a personal friend request or like my public page and follow me there. And of course, I can’t wait to see what you’re doing too!
Let’s do this my sweet special friends, because one day…it’ll all be over.
Mel’s weekly food pick:
If there’s one habit you can start building today for better health, it’s adding lemon to your diet in some way.
Although usually considered an afterthought garnish on a tall glass of water, lemons boast a pretty impressive resume. In fact, evidence suggests that lemons can support your health in the following ways:
- Boosts the immune system (due to their generous amount of vitamin C).
- Offers cardiovascular protection (vitamin C and folate).
- Prevents kidney stones (vitamin C).
- Possible cancer-fighter (folate and limonin, a powerful antioxidant found in citrus fruits).
- Protects liver function, helping preserve its ability to detoxify.
- Stimulates the digestive tract and keeps things moving along ?.
- Offers antimicrobial benefits against salmonella, staphylococcus and other pathogenic bacteria.
For all of these reasons, I strongly encourage my friends (yes YOU!) to drink 12-16 ounces of lemon water every morning right after waking. One tablespoon of lemon juice is plenty! Also, check out this week’s recipe pick for Strawberry Lemon Chia Pudding. It uses an entire lemon and makes a refreshing, light summer breakfast.
Mel’s weekly recipe pick:
Strawberry Lemon Chia Pudding (blended)