The Truth Is: You Can’t Do This Alone!
Years ago, Oprah Winfrey interviewed a grieving mother whose adult son died after a long illness. She told the story of their final moments together, when she climbed into his bed as he took his last few breaths. Barely able to hear him, she placed her head on his chest as he said his last words:
“Oh Mom, it is all so simple. It’s so simple, Mom.”
He then closed his eyes and died.
What does it mean to live?
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself what it means to live? Think about it for a second. Of course it all depends on your vantage point and life circumstances, but do any of these resonate with you?
To live means to:
- Have experiences
- Learn and grow
- Make a difference
- Give back
- Be fully present in the moment
- Enjoy life to the fullest
- Share my life
- Enter into a daily tennis match with food
- Obsess over my food choices
- Count calories (or carbs, sugar grams, etc.)
- Suffer disappointment
- Anticipate constant disappointment or misfortune (i.e. “I’m just waiting for the other shoe to drop” or “With my luck…”)
- Go through the daily grind of life (which is often sarcastically referred to as “living the dream” or “time to make the donuts”)
- Wander aimlessly until I die
You may resonate with a number of the above– there’s no right or wrong here– but if anything from struggle on down rang your little inner bell, I have this to say…
There has to be more to “living” than what we’ve been led to believe
I for one, refuse to believe we were put here to wander, struggle, suffer…and then die. There must be more.
Even so, our struggles are quite real, aren’t they?
The truth is, you can change your reality in a red hot second simply by shifting the direction of your gaze. Instead of looking for the answers somewhere out there, turn inward and know that you are not alone- you never were and never will be.
I’ve gotten to the point in my life where, when I find myself struggling in any area– be it my writing, health, or food (yes, I still struggle)– I take a breath to insert an intentional pause, and then I remind myself…
You are trying to do this alone Mel, that’s why you’re struggling!
And just as fresh life is breathed into my little lungs, a subtle sense of ease washes over me. And I am back to center. To wholeness.
I can’t do this alone…and neither can you
Think about the last time you embarked on a path to healthier living. How long did it last? A week? Two weeks? A month?
Then what happened? You fell off didn’t you? No…I’ll tell you exactly what happened:
You plugged along for a little while, using your human personality and imaginary human strength, then shit hit the fan and you found yourself elbow deep in the cookie jar after a stressful day at work. It was all downhill from there. Why? Because you tried to do it alone.
Although this may be painful to hear, it can also be the most liberating thing you’ll ever hear. The truth is, I don’t care what diet you try or personal trainer/health coach you hire, they will all eventually fail you when you go at it alone. Sure you may never regain the weight, but you will most likely spend every remaining day of your life in a low-grade battle with food. That my friend is not living.
Here’s where you may unsubscribe and decide I’m not for you (and that is totally OK)…
I’m done with treading lightly with my words, fearful I may offend someone. If you want me to be real-which, at this point in my life, I can be no other way–I must call out the invisible elephant of this dance called life.
Why do we boogie through our days pretending that It doesn’t exist? I mean, we know It exists; we were born knowing…but then we forgot. Maybe we were supposed to forget. But it’s during the struggles of life when we are more willing than ever to turn towards It for strength. Sometimes we are forced. This is what happened to me after three long years of suffering with binge eating disorder.
But why do we have to wait for our life to be in the toilet in order to make this shift?
So what exactly is It?
You already know the answer don’t you?
The truth is, you hold within you, the seed of Life, of ultimate power and strength. Do you believe it? Or do you spend your days stuck in your ego-self, lamenting all of the things that went wrong yesterday?
The simple truth is this: the degree to which you experience this Life and behold Its power, depends upon your belief not only in It, but that It is in you.
Test it out for yourself
I promise you will have the opportunity to test this out today, probably within the next 15 minutes. So when you are faced with one of life’s little “roadblocks”…
Take a breath and turn inward…
Feel the power…
And know you are not alone. You never have been… and you never will be.
The truth is, it really is all so simple.